Did you know that human beings are the only living organisms that cry tears of emotion? Crying is our body's way of getting rid of toxins and our tears act as a release valve for stress, tension, depression and grief.
Each type of tears has a unique, healing role.
Emotional tears have healing powers for our body. They de-stress us. They calm us. They relax us. Emotional tears shed chemicals and toxins that accumulate when we're stressed. Additionally, they produce endorphins, our body's natural feel good hormones. And that's why we say, "I had a good cry" - because it is actually good for us!
Interestingly, emotional tears are the ones we have a problem with - often we feel weak when we cry, we apologise for 'breaking down' in front of others or we are embarrassed that we 'lost it' in public.
In relation to grief and crying, there is still some education to be done. We can be held back by outmoded ways of thinking about crying that encourage us to suppress our feelings like:
Instead, when someone is grieving, we need to send encouraging, helpful messages that say:
Doris Zagdanski is a leading figure in modern day grief and loss education. Her seminars are included in vocational qualifications in Allied Health, Counselling and Funeral Directing.